DM v KM

This case concerns two boys aged 5 and 4 J (born [a date in] 2010) and D (born [a date in] 2011). This case is as a result of an application brought by their father (DM) through the Central Authority for the summary return to the USA of these two children who were brought to the UK by their mother (the respondent KM) for a holiday on 22^nd January 2016. They were due to return on the 19^th February 2016 but they have remained in England with the respondent.

While at the outset of these proceedings the respondent had previously raised defences under Article 13 (a) as well as Article 13(b), by the time the case came before me at 2pm on the 19^th May 2016 she no longer pursued the Article 13 (a) defence having accepted that when she travelled to the UK in January it was “for the purpose of a holiday and to allow the boys to meet my mother. Return flights were booked for 19 February 2016”. There were numerous electronic messages exchanged between the parties after she did not return to the United States (some of which could be read as the applicant acquiescing to the children and their mother remaining in the UK). However, taken as a whole, the evidence of acquiescence is equivocal at its highest.

The application for summary return to New Jersey is dated 14th March 2016. Both parties have filed statements and the children were both seen by Angela Adams of the Cafcass High Court team following allegations that the boys had suffered physical abuse and been present during incidents of domestic abuse. Ms Adams has provided a report dated 11^th May 2016.

As the defence under Article 13 (a) was not pursued, both parties agreed that there was no reason for me to hear any oral evidence. Neither party required the attendance of Ms Adams to give evidence as the Art 13(a) defence was not pursued. The remaining defence under Article 13(b) was dealt with by way of commendably succinct oral submission by counsel for both the applicant and the respondent, who also provided the court with some further written submissions. In respect of Article 13b “grave risk of harm” KM relied on disputed allegations of domestic abuse, including sexual violence against her, violence used against the children and frequent physical and emotional abuse by the applicant. As a result of the abuse, the Applicant has been arrested by the police and admitted to the ER for a psychiatric assessment. It is alleged that he has threatened to take his own life in the presence of the children. I shall return to the allegations below having considered the law to be applied in this case.

As Mr Khan (counsel for the applicant) set out in his position statement, the law to be applied is set out in the Supreme Court Re E (Children) (Abduction: Custody Appeal ) [2011] UKSC 27; in paragraphs [32] to [37] (quoted by Mr Khan) Lady Hale and Lord Wilson laid out some of the principles to be applied the first being that the burden lies with the respondent in this case as the person attempting to engage Article 13 (b).

To this I add that part of the import of the decision in the case of Re A was to confirm that the European case law had not suggested any change to the principle of a summary process and that the conduct of this case, agreed by both parties is in keeping with that procedure. Article 13 (b) read that the person opposing the return of the children must establish that “there is a grave risk that his or her return would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation.”

I have reminded myself that the court should apply a two tier test when considering Article 13 (b) namely to establish whether a prima facie case is made out and, if so, to then consider whether or not to order the children’s return. The Article 13 threshold is to be strictly applied and it is only in exceptional circumstances that the court will consider not returning the children. In this I have to consider the case law as contained in Re S (A Child) (Abduction: Rights of Custody) [2012] 2 FLR 442, and Re M (Abduction: Child’s Objections) [2007] 2 FLR 72; although the latter case concerned the child’s objections these where cases where due to the exceptional welfare considerations Hague Convention considerations were outweighed by welfare.

It was expressly accepted before me, on behalf of the applicant that I should approach this case on the basis of the respondents allegations put at their highest, despite the fact that they were not all accepted. Indeed the case put on behalf of the applicant was not to deny there had been domestic abuse, but to say that the abuse was mutual and that it had been caused by sexual jealously as both he and the respondent had been involved in extra-marital affairs. The applicant accepted that the children had been present during those incidents; he accepted that the police had been called; and, he accepted that he had been taken to ER for a psychiatric assessment at the suggestion of the police.

The parties met and married in Germany. DM is a US national and was serving in the US army. KM is a German national. The children are of dual heritage and have lived in the USA with their parents (although for some time with their mother alone) since 2010; D was born there. They are habitually resident in the USA. There are no current proceedings regarding these children in the US.

On the evidence of both parties it is clear that there have been serious difficulties in their relationship and other people have been involved, including a period of time when the applicant had his pregnant girlfriend living in the family home; he claims that this was a ménage à trois. The respondent alleges that the domestic abuse had started in 2010 but became worse after the birth of their second child in 2011 and persisted thereafter. She says that DM has assaulted both the children, giving as examples J when he was 1 year old being hit on his legs and D when he was a baby of two months being hit on his mouth. She said in her statement that she was regularly assaulted; she was slapped, had her hair pulled and twisted and that she was choked. She says that during these incidents the children were present.

KM says that in 2014 the violence escalated and she was sexually assaulted by DM who attempted to rape her. She considers that his behaviour is due, in part, to his suffering PTSD which was caused as a result of his experiences when serving in the military. DM accepts that he has suffered PTSD and has received treatment for it, but, as described to the Cafcass officer who had direct email contact with DM, he says it is a minor difficulty which has no effect on his behaviour in the home.

KM described in her statement an incident in 2015, which took place in their apartment when the children were present, when DM had seen pictures of her with another man and had held a knife to his own throat threatening to kill himself. Their landlord had intervened as a result of her screams and told DM to leave the apartment. She says that, in October 2015, DM assaulted her, he tried to destroy her belongings and attempted to rape her. Again, this took place in front of the children. The police were called by the landlord and DM was taken by police for psychiatric assessment; there is a hospital record to that effect dated 8^th October 2015 exhibited to his own statement.

During the time the children were in England in January and February 2016, DM was evicted from the apartment they had been living in. He has subsequently moved to another apartment which he says he will vacate so that the respondent and the children can return to live there. There is a dispute about the lease and tenure of this apartment and the court has seen three tenancy agreements, signed this year (2016) which have variously been in the name of DM, in the name of the woman who had been pregnant with his child and in both their names which would suggest they were still in a relationship two months ago. They were not all for the same address but it does call into question whether there is in fact secure accommodation at the applicant’s disposal.

I ordered that the children should be seen by a Cafcass officer because of the very serious nature of the allegations, including violence against them. The children were seen by the Cafcass officer, Ms Adams, who according to her report found them both to be well able to communicate with her. She found J, who will be six in four months’ time, to have a good sense of humour and that his range of vocabulary and ability to express himself was on a par with most children of his age, if not a little more advanced. He showed some understanding of the relationship between his parents and why he thought they had come to England. This, she thought, showed some emotional maturity for a five year old, although he had some difficulty in verbalising his own feelings or those of others which perhaps suggested less emotional maturity. He appeared to think that he was now living permanently in England; and that his awareness of being in England as a result of his father hurting his mother might make it emotionally difficult for him to return to the USA, fearing that they will be unsafe if they go back. Ms Adams felt that his presentation might suggest he was conflicted and needed a strategy to keep safe, which he sees as staying in England, alongside missing the rest of his family, his home (which is not available to him in any case) and his school in America.

D is four and a half and Ms Adams said he was as cognitively and emotionally mature as most children of his age. They are close in age and emerging from infancy and so their emotional needs are closely intertwined with their main caregiver, their mother, and need to be with her to feel safe. Both had experienced family conflict, which, in this case is at the most serious end of any scale.

J told Ms Adams “my daddy kept hurting my mom and that was pretty much why we came here”. He was uncomfortable and avoidant about talking about the USA. He unhesitatingly told Ms Adams that the word he chose to describe his father was “angry”. Ms Adams asked him how he knew his father was angry and he said that “he shouts and hurts my mum”. J told her that his mother had once had a black eye and described how her eye was black all around it. He said he did not know how he felt when his mother got hurt but replied “no” when asked if it made him frightened. He told Ms Adams that he knew his father had hurt his mother’s eye, because “he is rough”.

When J was asked if there were things that made his father happy he said “when my mum stops talking he does not have to yell anymore.” On the face of it this is indicative of a five year old learning to blame the victim for the abuser’s actions and would have long term consequences for his emotional and social development were it to continue. When asked what word he would use to describe his mother he said she was “nicer”.

J told Ms Adams he thought he was going to live here (in the UK) forever and physically avoided responding to how he might see his father by hiding behind the curtain of a toy puppet show, and not answering. He used a puppet to reply to further questions. He said that he did not know which country a boy who had lived in both countries (here and the USA) might choose – it was hard to choose. He was glad he did not have to go to his American school any more.

I considered the Cafcass report to be careful and measured, and that the questions that J was asked were open; leaving it up to him how he chose to respond. He was, as the Cafcass officer said, guarded in his responses about where he should live and aware, too aware, of the conflict he had witnessed. J did not ask to see his father and had, in Ms Adams’ view, negative memories of him.

Ms Adams was concerned about J and D being exposed to further domestic abuse and instability. As she observed (and I agreed with this observation) that while DM denied allegations of harm, J disclosed that he had witnessed violence perpetrated by his father. She went on to say that the violent behaviour (sexual violence and attempted choking) described by KM were “high risk” on application of the Safe-lives DASH tool and indicators of serious physical and psychological injury. Further, as she observed, the PTSD which DM suffers can lead to irritability and angry outbursts (amongst other symptoms) which must be considered to be likely to raise the level of risk. No doubt because of this, Ms Adams said in her report that to ensure the safety of the children, she would want there to be a referral to the American Child Protection Services and for there to be a full welfare assessment of the children.

Ms Adams was concerned that the three bedroomed apartment which DM currently lives in would only be available for a short time (until the first inter-partes hearing) and this would subject the children to yet further instability. Lack of secure accommodation is not of itself a situation that can be considered to be intolerable but I remind myself that in considering domestic abuse and its effects on the children, I must also consider the provision of safe accommodation as part of the children’s situation as a whole, along with the likely effects of any financial abuse.

In the USA as DM does not have sufficient income to house himself and the respondent and children separately, it places the children in a situation where they and their mother are financially vulnerable. The Cafcass report makes more than one reference to this and, specifically, alludes to the need for the court to consider the children’s stability in America in terms of financial support. The applicant says he will live with his mother “temporarily” with no indication of the length of time that this option is available to him; his mother is not obliged to house him indefinitely.

As to the risk to the children of financial as well as physical abuse, the apartment the applicant offers is in his name with no security of tenure for the respondent, he has not made an offer or taken any steps to secure it for her, and she and the children will be entirely dependent on his good-will. Moreover there is a dispute about KM’s ability to gain employment and support herself which raises the risk of financial exploitation or abuse and increases the overall vulnerability of the children’s situation. Although KM does have a green card which means that she could work, she has two young children to look after which will curtail her working hours and or require her to earn a sufficient income to provide child care and as a German national, it is not clear whether she would qualify for any welfare payments.

Ms Adams’ view, underlined by the CAFCASS safe contact indicator, is that it would not presently be in the children’s best interests for them to have unsupervised contact with DM and that if in America, that was a matter that she considered should be decided by child protection services after an assessment.

It falls to me to consider the particular situation of these particular children, and whether they are at grave risk of harm or otherwise being placed in an intolerable situation. The evidence before me in this particular case includes the Cafcass report, as well as the complaints made by KM, which while being disputed by DM have also, in part, been expressly accepted by him in his own evidence; such as the involvement of the police; his admission to a hospital for psychiatric evaluation at the suggestion of the police; the children having witnessed some of the incidents of domestic violence; and, that he suffers from PTSD.

I am acutely aware that case law has not treated domestic violence and abuse as sufficient to form a defence to the convention. In this case there have been complaints of the very serious and grave domestic abuse which are at the severe end of any scale, and which, if true, would constitute high risk indicators. While by the complaints themselves, may not, however serious, constitute a defence, and not only because the facts are contested, in this case there is substantial and compelling evidence that the children have not only witnessed the violence but have been affected by it (J in particular) and that it has begun to influence their emotional development. This is evidence contained in the Cafcass officer’s report. The harm caused by witnessing domestic abuse is recognised to be substantial and can have long-term effects on the welfare and development of children; the beginnings of which were observed in J by Ms Adams. The gravity of that risk of harm is likely to be increased by the effects of the PTSD which DM suffers from; what he says the effects of PTSD are on him is not something he has addressed in his statement.

The situation that the children were in was an intolerable one; they were exposed to frequent domestic abuse and to the emotional volatility and anger of their father who had frequently assaulted their mother in their presence, affecting them and affecting their emotional well-being and, in all likelihood, affecting their emotional development; J told the Cafcass Officer his father kept hurting his mother. DM denies assaulting the children and, although he told Ms Adams that KM had hit the children, this was not an allegation that he repeated in his written evidence or in his submissions to the court. I am not in a position to make any findings but these allegations by KM (of DM’s assaults on the children), if true, would constitute serious assaults on very young children which could only be considered to be wholly intolerable. The recommendation by Cafcass that there should only be supervised contact is one that must be taken seriously at this stage and would have to continue until the children’s safety could first be assessed and ensured. DM has made no suggestion of how it could be done, still less taken no steps for it to be put in place.

I cannot conclude that there is compelling evidence that there is a grave risk that to return the children would expose them to physical harm; but I can and I do conclude that to return them would expose them to a grave risk of emotional harm and that they would be placed in an intolerable situation in respect to their safety and that of their mother and the concomitant high risk of emotional and psychological harm to the children themselves should they continue to witness it. The risk of direct physical harm to the children remains to be adequately assessed.

I now turn to the situation to which they would be returned, and start by saying that I do not question the provision of legal safeguards or protective measures for women and children in the USA. In this case, however, I have to consider what protective measures can be put in place for these particular children in their particular situation. They cannot be returned to their father on the basis of the evidence before me. Protective measures need to be in place not only for the short term or immediate future, but for some time to come (as alluded to above in the judgement in Re E).

It is not just a question of whether the New Jersey Courts would enforce the undertakings given to this court as suggested by the applicant; and there is no guarantee that they would. Or of how long that process would take; and there is no indication of how long that would be other than it would depend on the procedure followed. It could be, I am told, as little as a week or as long as four weeks or longer. As there are no proceedings extant it could be some time, DM has taken no steps to put the protective orders in place and any application to the court in New Jersey would have to be funded by him and he has emphasised his financial limitations. Mr Khan said in his oral submissions to me that the police should be the first port of call, but this is hardly a protective measure and no guarantee of any protection in place for when the children return.

The accommodation that is offered is an apartment which currently seems to be in the sole name of the applicant. There is no reason to believe he would give up his tenancy indefinitely and nothing to stop him from return at any time; he has taken no steps to secure the accommodation for KM and economically provide accommodation for her and the children and for himself. If the children moved there with their mother both they and she would be financially very vulnerable and exposed to further serious domestic abuse. They could be asked to leave at any time and would be living there without any protective orders or measures being in place. The measures that DM suggests should be put in place amount to no more than vague and ephemeral assurances and do not amount to protective measures at all sufficient to meet the needs and circumstances of the children in this case.

When one adds to this the fact that KM has very limited financial resources herself, if any, and no support (most of her family live in Germany and some in the UK) this level of financial vulnerability in a case such as this, directly affects the children, and adds to the risk of harm and to the intolerability of the children’s situation. I do not consider that any or sufficient protective measures are in place, nor have sufficient steps been taken to put them in place and so these children would return to a situation where they would be at grave risk of emotional harm and returned to an intolerable situation and therefore I do not consider that I am bound by the provisions of the treaty to order their return and do not do so.