A Mother v A Father

These are two judgments of the court.

In this document I combine both judgments from the same case that together detail the concluding procedural phases of the complex, protracted and bitterly disputed private law proceedings in this case. Both judgments were handed down orally to parties on the dates shown above.

I have taken the step of publishing the two judgments in one document for two principal reasons. First, because they raise questions of principle and public importance in respect of litigation involving serious allegations of child sexual abuse. Second, in furtherance of the President of the Family Division’s transparency initiative and the “the need for much greater openness” in the Family Courts (Confidence and Confidentiality: Transparency in the Family Courts, 28 October 2021, [20]-[32]), so members of the public may see how the court performs its protective duties towards a child where one parent alleges that the other has sexually abused their child - here a father against his daughter. The essential facts are common to both applications; that is another reason to provide this consolidated judicial overview.

I subdivide the text into two parts, one each for each judgment, as set out in the table below. Part A is the judgment on costs following a fact-finding hearing. Part B is the judgment on the further application by the child’s mother to remove the father’s parental responsibility. To make these complicated proceedings more readily intelligible, I further subdivide the text into 12 sections.

The importance of these decisions is reflected in the fact that both the applications by the mother are exceptional applications. I shall say more about this later.

Since the parents had differing roles in the various stages of proceedings, for simplicity’s sake, I refer to the applicant in the head proceedings and the respondent in the costs application as “the father”; the respondent in the head proceedings and the applicant in the costs proceedings as “the mother”. The mother is also applicant in the removal of parental responsibility application, and the father again respondent. The child will be referred to as “C” throughout, which I emphasise comes nowhere near to her real name.

Substantial anonymisation is necessary. Its purpose is to protect the vital interests in the right to privacy and private life under Art. 8 of the European Convention on Human Rights (“ECHR”) of the child and her mother. I appreciate that using such redaction reduces the living, breathing parties to these proceedings to little more than dimly viewed shadows against the courtroom wall. But protection outweighs the Art. 10 ECHR freedom of expression/right to know and publish full personal details. For that reason, I am satisfied that there should be a proportionate derogation from Art. 10 to protect the child.

Therefore, the case should be called “A Mother versus A Father (Costs Following Fact-finding and Removal of Parental Responsibility)”.

Given the complexity and extensiveness of proceedings and the number of hearings, the representation altered somewhat. I am grateful to all the advocates listed. I wish in particular to note the contribution of Ms Ecob, who made two bold applications in the best interests of her lay client, the mother. Of no less note are Ms Cooke and Mr Anderson. They acted pro bono on behalf of the father. It does them and the Bar great credit. Equally, the court must pay tribute to their instructing solicitor Ms Shah, who again acted for the father on a pro bono basis. It is important that the public knows the professional and personal sacrifice that members of the legal profession so frequently make, unheralded and unacknowledged, and without which many cases could not proceed effectively or would take significantly longer.

This is an application for costs in family private law proceedings.

This judgment examines the proper and principled approach to an application for costs by one parent against the other parent at the end of a fact-finding hearing within child arrangement order proceedings under the Children Act 1989, where serious allegations are made by one parent against the other and are stridently and strenuously denied, but are found proved by the court to the requisite standard of a balance of probabilities following the fact-finding hearing.

The parties are as follows: today, the father is represented by his solicitor, Ms Shah; the respondent mother is represented by counsel, Ms Whelan. At the trial of the issue, the father was represented by Ms Savvides of counsel, and the respondent mother was represented by Ms Ecob of counsel, but Mr Harley of counsel stood in for her to take the fact-finding judgment. I am grateful to all the advocates in this case for their assistance.

The child in these proceedings, C, is a bright and intelligent girl, who at the time of the allegations was aged five; at the time of judgment, aged six. She finds herself caught in the middle of an ongoing and bitter dispute between her parents. It is full of vitriol, allegation and counter-allegation.

C herself has made allegations against her father. She says that when she was five years old, her father did “bad stuff” to her while she was spending time with him in his home, following a child arrangements order that a previous court had granted following previous and equally bitter proceedings. The child says he has been touching her genitalia unnecessarily in the bedroom at night. When she has a bath, she plays with her toys and he pretends to wash her with a sponge. However, this is what she describes as a “trick”, and secretly instead rubs her genitalia with his hand; she says that she does not like it and it makes her feel sad.

The principal decision before the court at the fact-finding hearing was whether what C said about all of this was true; “true” in that carefully defined forensic sense, proved by the person who seeks a finding, here, C’s mother; proved on the entirety of the evidence, so it is more probable than not. That was the purpose of the fact-finding hearing I conducted; nothing more, nothing less.

What had happened was that between 2016 and 2017, the mother made a series of allegations against the father. She said that he had sexually abused their daughter. She also made allegations that he had been abusive towards her, the mother herself. She was granted a non-molestation order by the court, and all contact between C and her father ended. C attended three Achieving Best Evidence (ABE) interviews. The police investigation, however, resulted in no further action being taken against the father.

The case then came before the Family Court in front of a District Judge. The court considered the mother’s application under the Family Law Act 1996 and the father’s cross-application for child arrangement orders under the Children Act 1989.

There was a four-day fact-finding hearing in March and April 2018; it was before District Judge Marin. The judge delivered what can only be described as a condemnatory 20-page judgment. It was dated 30 April 2018. He detailed why he found the allegations made by the mother to be wholly without merit and entirely unfounded (see bundle J1-20).

The non-molestation order against the father was discharged and a prohibited steps order was made against the mother preventing the child’s removal from the jurisdiction. The judge directed a psychological assessment of the mother, and also a Section 7 (broadly child welfare) report by Cafcass.

The court granted child arrangements orders in respect of C and there was a phased reintroduction of C to her father. This progressed in the end to unsupervised contact in the community then to contact which was staying contact overnight at his house. On 31 July 2018, at the dispute resolution appointment, a final child arrangements order was made, and C was ordered to spend four days a week with her mother and three days a week with her father. This is how things stood for over a year until the triggering incident.

That event took place on 28 November 2019. The mother made allegations to the police that the father had sexually assaulted their daughter. As a result, on 29 November 2019 the father was arrested for sexual assault by way of digital penetration. On 19 December 2019, C and her mother went to an ABE interview with the police. Since the date of the father’s arrest there has been no contact between her and her father.

On 14 January 2020, the father made a series of applications to the court:

The case came before me as a fact-finding hearing on 7 December 2020. At that point, therefore, and to take stock, the position was this: in November 2019, the mother unilaterally stopped complying with the child arrangements order. On 27 November 2019, she had taken her daughter to hospital. The mother stated C had been staying with her father immediately prior to this incident. C complained that she had soreness in her vagina. At the hospital, upon examination by the medical staff, C was indeed found to have redness around the vagina. The mother states that C told her that the father had been touching her vagina with his finger and hand.

The Scott schedule was subdivided into two parts (the case was case-managed with directions about the structure of allegations prior to the Court of Appeal in H-N [2021] EWCA Civ 448). The first part dealt with the six reports that C made about what her father had allegedly done to her. She made those reports to different people. The question in this part is whether the report was in fact made. The second part of the Scott schedule addresses the underlying truth of the allegations. It makes the global allegation that the father had sexually abused C and has acted towards her in a sexually inappropriate fashion as she has described to the police, other professionals, and indeed, to her mother.

The allegations were, broadly, that the father tickled C’s belly, moving his hand towards her genitalia without actually touching them. He put Sudocrem on her vagina without medical or other legitimate reason, and touched her vagina when she was having a bath.

Part one. On five occasions, C reported to the mother that her father applied Sudocrem to her genitalia. That was a finding that the court made a fact. In June 2019, she told her mother that the father tickled her with his hand over her belly, moving towards her genitalia. On November 13 2019, she told her mother that her father touched her vagina and would say things to the effect of, “This is my little girl”, using comforting and consoling words to the effect that she was doing “good” or “right”. On 27 November 2019, C told her mother that her father touched her vagina during the time she spent with him, causing her pain. On 28 November 2019, she told the investigating police officer and the social worker at the hospital that when she was staying with her father she would share his bed, and at night he would touch her vagina; that he would touch her vagina when she was in the bath.

On 20 December 2019, she told her school teacher:

The further context in respect of this part of the Scott schedule is the ABE interview. In that, C makes allegations to the police that her father touched her vagina in the bath and would carry her into the bed at night and touch her vagina there.

It is vital for me to emphasise again that the court bears in mind that when sexual abuse allegations are made in the context of private law proceedings and disputes between parents, the court must proceed very carefully and take into account the possibility that there may be ulterior motives for such allegations. That said, I was driven by the factual evidence to the conclusions that I have outlined and will further outline shortly. That was by the sheer weight and cogency of the evidence and its powerful cumulative effect taking all the evidence together, not looking at the evidence in separate compartments.

All the findings I had made were more probable than not, in fact, not that it was necessary to do so, the evidence persuaded me considerably beyond that simple civil standard that C had been sexually abused by her father in the way this bright and loving child stated, in the way she told her mother, and in the way she told the police, and the social worker, and her teacher.

Part two. This part is about what Father was found to have done. The court made the following findings of fact: that the father applied Sudocrem to C’s genitalia in circumstances where there was no medical or other justification for doing so. The applications were between February and November 2019; there were five of them. I note that the Scott schedule alleged that the application of Sudocrem was on “many” occasions; the court found that it was five times, not “many”. This distinction was largely a matter of factual accuracy and precision.

The next Court finding was that in June 2019, the father tickled C slowly with his hand on her belly, moving his hand downwards towards her genitalia.

Next, on various dates, the father touched C’s vagina with his hand when C was in the bath. This touching was executed by subterfuge by the father: the bath time situation was exploited as a cover for the father’s intention to touch his daughter’s vagina; the touching was sexual.

The next finding of fact, on various dates, the father touched C’s vagina with his hand when C was in her father’s bed, and it was painful to her.

The next finding of fact, on various dates, the father said to C when he was touching her vagina, “This is my little girl, and she is doing right/good”. This was an attempt by the father to persuade his daughter that his sexual touching of her was not harmful or wrong, but that it was something that was “good” or “right”.

There is a generally circulating misconception that there is a common approach to costs in the Family Court, and that it is that generally costs orders are not made. In fact, the position is more complex and nuanced than that. There are a number of dominant themes that broadly shape but do not determine the various substreams of work that together constitute the work of the Family Court. Proceedings under the Children Act 1989 is one such stream; this work can be further subdivided into public law and private law work.

In respect of private law cases determining child arrangements orders, there is indeed a policy that informs the question of costs awards. It was set out amongst other places by Wilson J, as he then was, in London Borough of Sutton v Davis (Costs) (No 2) [1994] 1 WLR 1317. In that case, the judge sought to explain the reason behind the general proposition that it was unusual to make an order for costs in children cases. He stated at 1317:

Thus, where litigation conduct has been blameworthy, in the sense of being reprehensible or unreasonable, costs are potentially payable. In Re S (A Child) [2015] UKSC 20, at [19], Lady Hale deemed this exposition by Wilson LJ to be the “classic” encapsulation of why in Family Court proceedings involving child welfare the courts have generally adopted a “no costs” approach.

Of the seminal cases in this field is R v R (Costs: Child case) [1995] 2 FLR 95. In that case, the Court of Appeal explained why the practice of not awarding costs in child cases had developed. At pages 96-97, Hale J, as she then was, said:

At page 97, Hale J goes on to say:

However, that is not the end of it. The policy to encourage, or at least not deter, active participation by those who have a reasonable interest in the welfare of the child is encapsulated in Part 28 of the Family Procedure Rules 2010 (“FPR”). Generally, in family proceedings, the court starts with a plain sheet in respect of costs, as part 44 of the Civil Procedure Rules (CPR) makes clear: the starting point is rule 44.2. This provides insofar as it is material:

This principle is echoed in the Family Procedure Rules 2010 at rule 28.1. That provides: “The court may at any time make such order as to costs as it thinks just”. However, the rules then qualify this general principle in the next provision. Rule 28.2 provides insofar as it is material:

That rule that was expressly excluded by Family Procedure Rules 28.2 is as follows:

Although it is excluded by rule 28.2 of the FPR, nevertheless it is noteworthy that CPR 44.2 itself contains an exception at (2)(b), which states: “The court may make a different order”. To take stock then, the court is left with a position that it can make any costs order it thinks just, but the rule that the costs follow the event, what is called the “general rule”, deriving from CPR 44.2(2), is disapplied. Thus, to make an order following a fact-finding hearing would not be to disapply the disapplication; it would be, in my judgment, to make an order that the court thinks is just.

Further assistance about the exercise of discretion in determining what is indeed “just” is provided by CPR part 44. Part 44.4 provides:

Thus, there is a wide discretion. That discretion is conferred by statute and statutory instrument. It must be exercised in accordance, therefore, with the overriding objective. The FPR outlines the overriding objective at rule 1.1. That rule provides to the extent that it is material as follows:

Thus, the question becomes: when would it be just to order costs in Children Act 1989 proceedings, and why? The reason for this application of the general costs following the event rule principle is a species of promoting both the overriding objective ambition of dealing with the case justly and having regard to the paramount principle of section one of the same Act. At section 1(1), the Children Act 1989 provides that “the child’s welfare shall be the court’s paramount consideration”.

Do, then, fact-finding hearings engage questions of the child’s welfare? By their definition, they do not: a fact-finding hearing is axiomatically about finding facts. It is those facts, once found, that then inform the welfare decisions of the court, but they are not in themselves about child welfare. One tests that proposition by asking whether one makes a factual determination taking into account what is in the best welfare interests of the child or simply by assessing the evidence and then making a determination of what is proved to the requisite standard, irrespective of the implications for the destination of the child’s living and contact arrangements.

It is essentially for this reason that in Re J (Children) [2009] EWCA Civ 1350, Wilson LJ found that a fact-finding hearing could be, as the judge put it, “ring-fenced” from the general welfare enquiry. That case was a case involving a fact-finding hearing. While the judgment of the Court of Appeal was delivered by Wilson LJ, as he then was, Ward LJ concurred with the judgment. Thus it is an authoritative court.

What had happened was that there was a fact-finding hearing that was conducted by a district judge in 2008. This was an investigation into the allegation by the mother within an application for contact made by the father that in the marriage he had perpetrated acts of violence towards her, including in the presence of one or other of the two children of the marriage, and indeed had to a limited extent been violent towards the older child.

At the end of the hearing the District Judge gave a judgment in which to a significant extent, but not completely, he found the mother’s allegations proved. The mother then sought an order for costs for the fact-finding hearing against the father. The District Judge refused the application and made no order. It was against this refusal to make no order as to costs that the mother appealed to a Circuit Judge; she lost again there.

The background was that the father had served in the British Army. In 2005, he began a tour of duty in Germany and the family moved there with him. There were difficulties and the marriage came to an end in February 2007, when the mother took the children with her and returned to England. A few months later, the father was transferred back to England by the Army, and the parents then lived in close proximity in west London.

Once he returned to this country, the mother refused to permit him access to the children, other than supervised contact at a contact centre. He therefore applied to the court for an order for unsupervised contact including staying contact, and in his application he reiterated that the mother was fabricating the allegations of domestic violence against him. In light of the mother’s allegations, the District Judge convened a fact-finding hearing. That was conducted on 18 and 19 March 2008 and both parties were represented by counsel.

At that fact-finding hearing the mother made 20 allegations against the father. The judge ruled that five of them had not been established to his satisfaction. He did not consider one of the allegations, but 14 allegations out of the original 20 were established. Those subdivided into three categories: one allegation which was established only to the extent of an admission by the father; four allegations which had been the subject of a partial admission by the father, but which were established to the more serious extent alleged by the mother; and also nine allegations which the father had denied completely, but were nevertheless established to the requisite civil standard.

Wilson LJ said that the District Judge’s findings were “entirely at odds with the tone of injured innocence struck by the father at the beginning of his written witness statement”. In his witness statement, the father said: “I am not a violent aggressive individual and certainly not the man I am being accused of being through the evidence provided to the court by my wife and her ‘supportive witness’”.

The mother founded her application for costs on the basis that notwithstanding that the hearing had been the context of the father’s application for contact, and that it was rare for the court to make an order for costs in proceedings under the Children Act 1989, the hearing was a fact-finding enquiry into allegations that had been properly made by the mother. Furthermore, her claim had to a significant extent been denied by the father and had yet been subject of positive adverse findings against him.

The judgment of the District Judge was brief. He said:

When that was appealed to the Circuit Judge, the Circuit Judge properly reminded herself that it was indeed unusual to make an order for costs in proceedings under the Act. She properly referred to a decision of the Court of Appeal in Re T (Order for Costs) [2005] EWCA Civ 311. It was submitted that the stance taken by the father at the fact-finding hearing was not “irrational conduct which had prolonged unnecessary litigation”.

In the Court of Appeal, Wilson LJ cited his own judgment that I have already mentioned: London Borough of Sutton v Davis (Costs) (No 2), and the passage at page 570H-571C. The judge continued that the reference to Re T “is an example of a case in which an order for costs was nevertheless made in proceedings under the Act”. He then moved on to consider the nature of this case. He disagreed with the Circuit Judge’s refusal to accept what she called a “compartmentalised approach”:

He stated at [17]:

He continued at [18]:

And then at [19]:

Therefore, he concluded at [20]:

Stepping back then, fact-finding hearings can lead to costs orders. Indeed, in R v R at paragraph 99, Staughton LJ stated: “For my part I am not sure that it would be wrong to discourage unreasonable parents from putting unreasonable views before the court”.

I must briefly deal with the case of Re T (Care Proceedings) (Costs) [2012] UKSC 36 in the Supreme Court. That was a case that considered Wilson LJ’s decision in Re J. Lord Phillips, President of the Supreme Court, held at [44] that:

One must be clear what was actually decided by the Supreme Court. These were care proceedings; there were allegations of sexual abuse of two children. The grandparents of the children were joined as intervenors as being people who allegedly colluded with the abuse.

After a lengthy split fact-finding hearing lasting five-and-a-half weeks, the grandparents were exonerated completely. Because of their financial circumstances, they were disentitled to legal aid, therefore they borrowed £55,000 from a building society. They spent £52,000 on legal fees and they sought to recoup them having been vindicated in the contested proceedings.

At the first instance, the trial judge dismissed their application for costs; his decision being reversed in the Court of Appeal. When the matter came to the Supreme Court, that court in turn overruled the Court of Appeal and restored the order of the judge at first instance, which was to dismiss the costs application.

The issue of principle that was raised by the appeal must be clearly and carefully identified. It was this:

Therefore, I judge this decision to be fundamentally about public law proceedings and costs; it is distinguishable from private law proceedings. However, it is of course highly persuasive being the judgment of the Supreme Court, but I do not find myself bound by this decision. It did consider what Wilson LJ said in Re J, but it considered its application to split hearings in public law Part IV proceedings. Here, the issues in private law fact-finding hearings are subtly, but importantly, different.

Nevertheless, putting all the authorities together, I conclude that some form of unreasonable conduct by the party subject to adverse findings is generally necessary. I have been influenced by what was said in the Supreme Court in the case of Re T. The Supreme Court emphasised that the unreasonable conduct need not be confined to the conduct of proceedings, but can include conduct prior to proceedings, which must include the question of whether to bring proceedings at all. The ability to consider conduct prior to proceedings was recognised by Keehan J in Re A and B (Parental alienation: No 3) [2021] EWHC 2602 (Fam) at [19], and while examining Re T. I turn to this more recent decision.

This was a long-running and complex case involving allegations of parental alienation which necessitated both multiple hearings and judgments. At the final welfare hearing, the residence of the child was transferred from the mother to the father. In a third judgment about proceedings, the judge considered the father’s application for costs. The judge carefully set out the legal framework and relevant decisions about it ([9]-[20]). He found that the mother’s approach to proceedings, in which she had lied repeatedly, amounted to an “ill-judged litigation tactic” and was “so egregious” that it triggered the costs discretion. The judge painstakingly considered whether each of the heads of costs incurred were necessary to proceedings, finding that some could not be characterised as “unnecessary” ([38]-[39]), while finding that applications to join the children as parties to be “inimical to the[ir] welfare best interests” ([43]) and the spurious attack on the professional integrity of a witness to be “wholly unreasonable” ([44]).

What can be taken from this is that the court is obliged to assess in general terms the contribution that the unreasonable and reprehensible conduct has made to the cost of proceedings. Keehan J ultimately awarded costs against the mother on an indemnity basis. The approach of Keehan J was confirmed by Arbuthnot J in C v S [2022] EWHC 800 (Fam) (see [128]-[129]).

Having surveyed the law as it currently stands, I conclude that the proper approach of the court when questions of costs arise in private law fact-finding hearings is reducible to the following ten propositions:

These are the elementary principles with which I judge this application, to which I now turn.

Having conducted an extensive and acrimoniously disputed fact-finding hearing, I found that this was a particularly serious case. The father sexually abused his daughter on repeated occasions; he sought to deny it and cover it up. To do so, he mounted a determined and forensically vitriolic attack on the character of the mother, and sought to question, fundamentally, the account of his daughter, a very young child.

He did so knowing two things: first, that he had sexually abused his daughter on many occasions; second, that his denial of the allegations was completely false. He was interviewed by the police and repeatedly lied, feigning innocence under police questioning.

He made false denials to the court over a prolonged period under oath. He showed absolutely no insight, regret, or remorse; instead, he maintained his false front. He interrupted the delivery of the court’s fact-finding judgment, again dishonestly, to protest his innocence.

This course of conduct did not end with the handing down of the judgment. He made an application for permission to appeal to the High Court that was found by the single judge, Peel J, to be “totally without merit”. This is entirely consistent with a course of unreasonable and dishonest conduct that I found before me. It lends support to the nature and quality of this father’s behaviour.

Here the father committed serious acts of child sexual abuse, and with impunity inflicted great distress and uncertainty upon his former partner, and critically, upon the child, he then unnecessarily prolonged the resolution of child arrangements by launching fabricated and false attacks principally against the mother, but also and importantly against the child, in order to cover up his wrongdoing. What is “just” in these circumstances?

The question is whether it is just for the mother of a child who has been abused, to have to resist and defend herself from false allegations of fantasy and fabrication, not be able to recoup any of the costs incurred to prove the truth in court. Here, the mother was seeking to protect her child from being exposed to a man that her daughter said was sexually abusing her, and this was something that the mother, with justice as the court found, was right to believe. The attack upon the mother was upon the clear instructions of the father and was an act of “gaslighting”, suggesting that she was exaggerating or fantasising, or seeing something that was not there, and seeking to deceive the court about it.

It was suggested that she had coached her daughter to exaggerate or lie about the abuse the child had in fact suffered. For example, in his sworn evidence to the court the father said:

In this case, the mother upon sound and practical legal advice made a contemporaneous diary of what her child was telling her, detailing the reports of the abuse the child was suffering. It was only coincidentally that this evidence was introduced into the fact-finding hearing when the mother made an off-the-cuff mention of it. She had not intended to use this document. She was then challenged vigorously by the father’s counsel about whether it did really exist. The next day, she was able to provide it. When she did, it was suggested that it was a fabrication.

The court considered the document carefully. The court reached the conclusion, unequivocally, that this was a contemporaneously written and detailed account of what had happened at various points to the daughter. Nevertheless, the father through his counsel, about whom not the slightest criticism is made, launched a withering attack about the authenticity of this document.

This mother was placed in a dreadful predicament by the father because she was fearful that should she report allegations of abuse against her child, she risked losing her daughter completely. She was in an impossible situation. However, this court found that the diary provided crucial supporting contemporaneous evidence.

Understandably, the mother found all of this a deeply distressing experience. There is in this case no prospect of reconciliation in the relationship between the parents. There is a strong and thoughtful Cafcass s.7 report stating that for the foreseeable future, there should be no contact between the father and his daughter.

Thus, how should the court’s wide discretion to award costs be exercised in this case? Will it be just to award costs to the mother? The features that are relevant to this evaluation are as follows. Here, there were 12 allegations subdivided into two groups of six. Of these 12 allegations, the court found all 12 of them proved; the only finding that was not made was the court found that it was not sexually touching “many” times, but it was sexually touching “five” times. In the overall scheme of this case, that made no material difference, but it was a matter of factual accuracy.

Proved against the father had been acts of serious sexual abuse against a very young child; what was particularly significant was that this child was alone with him and effectively at his mercy. The distress and emotional turmoil inflicted upon that child was exacerbated by the fact that he was not only her father, but she was in his care as part of the previous arrangements ordered by another court. Thus, he chose to exploit the opportunities that these court orders granted him to abuse his five-year-old child on several occasions over an extended period.

He lied to the police when the injury and discomfort inflicted upon his child’s vagina had led to inspection by the medical staff at the hospital. He then, knowing he had committed acts of repeated sexual abuse, brought proceedings himself in the Family Court to enforce the previous child arrangements order, and again to secure once more unfettered access to his daughter.

He lied to the court over a prolonged period, advancing an elaborate story that was false in all the important and disputed particulars. He instructed his counsel to pursue a comprehensive attack upon the child’s mother, accusing her of fabricating evidence, and questioning her mental health and emotional stability, and in the process thereby gaslighting her. For example, WhatsApp messages were produced during the fact-finding hearing, and they proved that he was accusing her of suffering from “a delusion of mind” and questioned “her mental state”.

This attack on her mental health continued during the fact-finding hearing. Mother was accused of being delusional and a fantasist, of exaggeration and fabrication. He then pursued an appeal against the judgment of this court which the appellate court found to be completely unmeritorious.

In the judgment of this court, if an adverse costs award was not justified in this case, it is hard to conceive of a case in which it would be. The unnecessary and unreasonable conduct consisted of amounting sustained and deeply personal attacks on the mother’s integrity and mental stability, suggesting that she had coached her child to lie and maintaining that the child also participated in this. All of this was totally false. It was reprehensible and unreasonable conduct by the father, broadly equivalent to the conduct found Keehan J in A and B at [34]:

The general rule against costs awards in certain family proceedings should never be misused as a shield to inure a sexually abusive party from the consequences of his or her reprehensible and egregious conduct, and particularly where that conduct is harmful to a child.

The message must be clear: if at a fact-finding hearing you falsely deny what you are found to have done, and go further by putting the other party to proof, you are at risk of paying the costs of proving your deceits false. This is especially so if you seek to bolster your lies with strident and spurious denials and the impugning of the other party. What it comes to is this: there is no longer in these cases any such thing as a forensic free ride.

I look at the question of the costs of the appeal. The mother also applies for the costs of preparing documents to respond to the extensive permission to appeal application by the father; that work was directed by the High Court.

Presently, I do not have a sufficient basis to justify this court making an order for costs for proceedings in the High Court, but I give permission for further authority to be provided to me electronically. If necessary, I will deal with this point on the papers; there is no need for a further hearing.

I turn to the question of the father’s financial status; the father continues to be impecunious. However, his financial situation is no objection or defence to an otherwise meritorious application being granted in principle: see Re G (Contact proceedings: Costs) [2013] EWCA Civ 1017, the judgment of McFarlane LJ, as he then was.

In these circumstances, the mother takes a realistic stance: she seeks an order for costs to be assessed, but would be content with a direction that such an order not be enforced without further leave of the court.

Therefore, the disposal of the court in respect of costs is as follows:

To conclude Part A of this judgment, I must complete the procedural narrative. At the dispute resolution appointment, the Cafcass Family Court Advisor recommended that there should be a lives with order in favour of the mother exclusively. The court granted that order.

The reporting officer said that the child would find it deeply distressing and retraumatising to have contact with her father. She had repeatedly told the officer that she did not want to see her father. The court judged that such was the exploitation of contact by the father in this case, that exceptionally there should be no contact between this father and his daughter for the foreseeable future. I observe that in the Sentencing Council guidelines on sexual offences, one of the “aggravating factors” is “exploiting contact arrangements with a child to commit an offence”. (See “Other aggravating factors” at https://www.sentencingcouncil.org.uk/offences/crown-court/item/assault-of-a-child-under-13-by-penetration/ ).

I emphasise that I am not making a finding about criminal responsibility. But court-sanctioned contact arrangements were exploited to abuse a child. The child’s abuser then repeatedly sought to use a previous court judgment to cover it up. I have found this to be a particularly egregious case.

At the hearing for costs, the mother made an application for the removal of the father’s parental responsibility. I emphasised to counsel how serious a step this is and that I was not prepared to deal with it during the course of argument at what was essentially a costs hearing. I judged that this would be unfair to the father and a breach of his Art. 6 rights. Therefore, I ordered a s.7 report from CAFCASS to make recommendations on the welfare considerations in either direction should parental responsibility be removed. I directed that parties provide skeleton arguments applying the facts to the law. The first date available for the hearing was 8 March 2023; the first date for judgment, 14 April 2023. It was as fast as it was possible to go.

There is a conceptual distinction between legal parenthood and parental responsibility. Parenthood lasts for the entirety of the child’s life. Parental responsibility is a legal relationship which ends without further order when the child reaches maturity at the 18^th birthday. When the parents are not married at birth, the father may nevertheless acquire parental responsibility in a number of ways as set out in statute. The same statutory provision also provides for the removal of that acquired parental responsibility.

Section 4 of the Children Act 1989 as amended provides (insofar as relevant to these proceedings):

As Baker J (as then was) said in CW and SG [2013] EWHC 854 (Fam) at [14], “It is very unusual for parental responsibility to be terminated by order of the court.” In CW and SG [2013] EWHC 854 (Fam), Baker J continued at [59]:

In D v E and G [2021] EWFC 37, MacDonald J provided clear guidance on the approach to the forensic problem. It repays consideration in detail:

From these decisions, I derive the following 9 principles:

Having identified the governing legal principles, I turn to the court’s evaluation of them on the facts of this case.

I first identify the factors both in favour of and against the application to remove parental responsibility. Following factor-identification, I evaluate the competing factors together and holistically.

The factors that ranged against the application are:

The factors supportive of the application are:

Exceptionality. The law is clear. There must be exceptionality before a father’s parental responsibility can be removed. Here the father sexually abused his daughter and exploited a court order to do so. He applied for a further child arrangements order knowing he had sexually abused his child. He lied to the police repeatedly. He lied to this court on oath repeatedly. He sought to dispute the allegations of sexual abuse by gaslighting the mother and questioning her emotional and psychological stability. I find exceptionality in this case.

Granting parental responsibility. I have absolutely no doubt that if the father made an application for parental responsibility, it would be resoundingly refused. It is inconceivable that any court properly seized with the facts of his systematic sexual abuse of his daughter, would grant him parental responsibility. The court would be bound to consider “the evidence of attachment and degree of commitment” as MacDonald J put it in D v E and G at [52]. Notwithstanding that the father wishes to have his daughter remaining in his life, that must be balanced against her wish, strongly and emotionally expressed to CAFCASS, that she does not see him anymore. Indeed, the prospect of future contact with her father is deeply distressing to her. I judge that the true nature of the father’s commitment to his child cannot be judged just by the fine words of affection to her, but by his acts: the systematic and repeated sexual abuse. I accept that he played a part in caring for her in the first few years of her life. But he used that opportunity to exploit her. He is concerned that termination of parental responsibility with result in the “erasure” of her memories of their life together. One of the ongoing features of her life moving forward will be how and to what extent she can process the memories of being abused by her father. Whether she will be able to erase such intrusive thoughts and whether that would be psychologically healthy is not a matter for this court now. However, the question of memory erasure is complex and cuts sharply both ways.

Prohibited steps order (combined with a section 91(14) order). I must carefully consider a chief plank of the father’s case: whether a prohibited steps order in combination with a section 91(14) order would provide sufficient protection. The father states with complete factual accuracy that he has not sought to interfere with parenting decisions during the course of proceedings. But this ignores a stark fact. That is that these proceedings exist because of him in two distinct senses. First, because he sexually abused his child which led to the distress of his daughter being reported to authorities. Second, because despite that, he sought to have contact with her again by issuing private law proceedings. Looking at the impact on her life, and fairly recognising his involvement in various ways in her early upbringing, I judge that by far the most significant impact he has had on her life viewed objectively at this point is his repeated sexual abuse. This is something that will undoubtedly have a lasting and damaging impact on her. Presently, it is not possible to quantify it. Her attitude towards her father, as expressed to the CAFCASS officer, speaks powerfully about how his abuse has damaged her attitude towards him. He is the sole author of all this. Yet not once during these proceedings has he shown the slightest insight or remorse.

Instead, he brazenly clings to his lies and repeats them. Following the court’s fact-finding judgment, the delivery of which he interrupted with intemperate and dishonest protestations; he sought to appeal on a basis that the High Court determined was totally without merit. His actions towards his child have been exceptionally harmful. The risk he poses to her in the future if he retains parental responsibility, even combined with a prohibited steps order, remains high. He would retain the capacity to make applications to the court and inflict further uncertainty on the mother. A section 91(14) order acts as a leave filtering requirement, but not an absolute bar (except very rarely). I have seen at close quarters the tremendously damaging impact these proceedings have had on the mother. These courts are increasingly aware of how such a damaging impact on a parent can affect the child through the impact on the parent’s emotional resources and availability. Accordingly, s.3 of the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 provides:

The statutory guidance to the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 reinforces this message at [128]. I have no doubt that, separately from the direct impact on the child, the continuing distress caused to the mother by the father retaining parental responsibility is likely to adversely impact the child indirectly. I find that the there is a significant risk of that happening here. Once the spotlight of proceedings moves on, I have little confidence that this father would be able to restrain himself. The fact that he brought these proceedings and then sought to appeal the court’s judgment on a spurious basis confirms that.

Further, as Baker J held in CW and SG at [59], there is nothing in the bundle of rights and duties that attach to parental responsibility that the father can exercise to the benefit of the child. The principal point advanced on the father’s behalf is that retaining the father-daughter link will be of benefit to the child should she in future wish to resume her relationship with him. It was put in this way by Mr Anderson:

However, what should happen in the interim? Should the child be told the truth by her mother about whether her father was being kept informed about her life, if the child asked? When pressed, counsel accepted that the child would have to be told the truth. This must be right. The court cannot countenance the child being lied to. It is necessary therefore to consider the impact of this on the child, given her firmly set views about not wishing to see her father. Mr Anderson, realistically, accepted that potentially this could cause her additional harm. It strikes me that there are two problems with the course advocated by the father.

First, whilst almost anything is theoretically possible, there is nothing concrete in the evidence to suggest that the child would seek out her father in future. This possibility is highly speculative. Second, one must weigh this remote future benefit against what is a real risk of future additional harm to the child. It strikes me as disproportionate to retain parental responsibility on the basis of the remote eventuality of future contact and a desire not to start that from a “standing start”. I cannot see how the situation would be materially improved with the combination of a section 91(14) barring order. As said, it is not an absolute prohibition, but a leave requirement before further application by the father. However, the mother would have to be informed of the application, and that in itself is likely to produce distress in her. Moreover, the father still refuses to accept the findings of fact by the court.

The father states that he would not oppose a section 91(14) order. However, his stance strikes me as being inconsistent. One of the reasons he wishes to retain parental responsibility is a professed concern that the child will be taken to the country of the mother’s birth. But if he truly does not intend to interfere or participate in his daughter’s life while she is in her minority, and will not try to see her, that cannot be a matter of great concern to him. What it does indicate is that despite his external stance, there is at least the risk of further attempted intervention in her life, which is the crux of the mother’s application. This was an inadvertent pointer to his underlying intentions.

Welfare checklist. As indicated by Baker J in Re CW at [25], I should also consider, to the extent that they are relevant, the statutory factors identified by the welfare checklist at s.1(3) of the Children Act 1989.

Factor a. Ms Ganser of CAFCASS did not meet with the child. She did not think it proportionate to meet C as Ms Lacey, the former Family Court Adviser, previously met C when she was younger. The interview with CAFCASS and the child took place by video on 19 October 2022 and in person on 20 October 2022.

The focus was on C’s wishes in respect of seeing her father, not about the removal of parental responsibility. That was the proper approach. Termination is a complex issue beyond the reasonable comprehension of a child of her age. C had clear wishes and feelings. It is documented at §16 that she doesn’t want to see him again. As C said this, she squashed a toy into a ball. Ms Lacey wondered if that was a way to channel difficult feelings, and noted her change in tone and presentation as she spoke about her father.

Ms Ganser gave some further evidence at the hearing. She said that “some weight” should be placed on her expressed wishes and feelings as the child is now 8. Ms Ganser confirmed that from the conversations with mother, there is no reason to think the child’s wishes and feelings about future contact have changed. I would add that the child is around the point that one ought to begin to take her views into account, without the issue being determined by them. She is an intelligent child with no additional learning needs and some weight should be attached to her wishes and feelings.

Factor b. C’s emotional need is to be emotionally secure. The prospect of having her father involved in her life is something that causes her distress. She has not had contact with her father for several years. Should that position change in future, that would cause her distress. It would produce, as Ms Ecob put it, “a traumatic response” in her. It must be made clear that there is no psychological report. The father submits that this should make the court hesitate before concluding that there would be harm. However, it seems to me that the court is perfectly competent to assess the totality of the evidence. It can reach a conclusion about whether there is a real risk of future harm. In my judgment, it is absolutely clear that given the level and seriousness of the abuse of the child and her great reluctance to see him, that an obvious and safe inference is that having the father retain parental responsibility is likely to create emotional harm to the child he has sexually abused.

Factor c. The change by removing her father having parental responsibility and thus denying him information about her would likely be something she would welcome. It would be, as Ms Ecob submits, a “positive change” for her.

Factor d. The child is now an 8 year-old female who has been sexually abused by her father when she was aged approximately aged 5.

Factor e. Of great relevance, she has been caused emotional and physical harm by her father as a result of his sexual abuse and the risk of future harm should the father continue to be part of the child’s life.

Factor f. It is submitted on behalf of the father that “meeting needs” is not a relevant factor. I cannot accept that submission. Given his treatment of her, he has proved incapable of meeting her needs in the most important sense of keeping her safe, secure and free from emotional distress and physical harm.

Factor g. The powers available to the court include that statutory power under s.4(2A) of the Children Act 1989 to remove parental responsibility.

Standing back, it is unarguable but that the balance of these factors points strongly to the child’s welfare being best promoted by removing his parental responsibility.

I must also consider the question of Convention rights. Removal of parental responsibility will be a very serious interference with the Art. 8 rights of the father and indeed the child. The court is obliged to take a structured approach.

I apply the four-limbed proportionality test enunciated by Lord Reed in Bank Mellat v HM Treasury (No 2)  [2013] UKSC 39, who surveyed the concept, reaching back to Thomas Aquinas and Aristotle’s Nicomanchean Ethics . The Supreme Court has confirmed that this “structured proportionality” test is the correct one to apply when Convention rights engaged ( R (Lumsdon) v Legal Services Board  [2015] UKSC 41 at [26]). I provide this court’s commentary after the emboldened text, which represents Lord Reed’s articulation of the test at [74]:

Further, I find that there is a conflict between the interests of the father and the child. The law is clear on resolving such conflict. The rights of the child must prevail over those of the parent. In Yousef v Netherlands  [2003] 1 FLR 210, the ECtHR stated at [73] that:

I consider the no order principle for the purposes of s.1(5) of the Children Act 1989. I find that it is better in the welfare interests of the child to order the removal of parental responsibility rather than not.

I have no hesitation in making a finding of exceptionality in this case. I am completely satisfied that the factors in favour of removal significantly outweigh those against it. Further, together they rebut the presumption against removal. Applying the paramountcy principle and evaluating the welfare checklist factors without giving any individual factor priority, it is unquestionably in the child’s best welfare interests for parental responsibility to be terminated. Removal is a draconian step, involving a severe interference with the father’s Convention rights and indeed those of the child. There is no getting away from that. However, I judge that it is also necessary and proportionate in the precise circumstances of this case.

I find that the mother has proved on a balance of probabilities that the father’s parental responsibility should be removed in the welfare interests of the child for the purposes of ss. 1 and 4 of the Children Act 1989. I grant the application.

I informed parties that I intend to write a letter to C, so that in the years to come and when she is sufficiently mature and psychologically ready, she can read it should she wish. It is to explain the court’s decision to her. An extract of that letter is below:

That is my judgment.